how to care..

CARE – Choice.Ask.Recommend.Encourage.

But be fair.  You'll wake up one day seeing that you are aging and you didn't do anything for your life throughout your existence.
Today, I'm not going to have an argue with you on how much things do we do wrong during a lifetime, I just need your attention, a little bit of imagination and your hearts open.
Think about this: you are a gardener. Now close your eyes and imagine a garden full of roses, yellow roses, red ones, purple, even blue and green. Think that the garden is your life, your soul and you are the one who has to take care of it.

Choice. Think about the choices we do in our lives. Think that you must harvest today a wonderful bouquet. You walk through your garden and pick the most beautiful flowers you find. Tomorrow you'll do the same. And the day after tomorrow, and so on...But there comes a time when weather, wind, ground, fertilizer aren't your friends anymore. Though, you still need to make a bouquet. So you manage to make one, in the end, even if it's not the prettiest ever. Got my point? In our lives we got to do choices, whether they are good or not, in our advantage or disadvantage. We just have to choose. That's life; a road full of choices, and we don't have to be afraid of the consequences, it's our responsibility.

Ask. Wandering through your garden you'll see that some flowers grow very quickly, some not. Some crops are withering. Some look like they have already been fertilized, before doing it yourself. And then, you start to ask yourself some questions. Why did that rose over there grew up so quickly? And why that flower, which kept growing and growing, withered in only one night? And then you ask other gardeners. That's life, my friends. A box full of questions. We ask why we had to go through something, for example why did you have to fail that exam, or how on Earth were you so lucky that you win the lottery.

Recommend. Now think that I and the rest of the people are gardeners as well. Think that I am coming to ask you about your flowers, and your beautiful garden. How did you managed to keep it so clean and with so many flowers? Others may come too. But don't be selfish; recommend. Think that tomorrow, the person standing next to you right now is coming to ask you what seeds do you use. Don't turn him down; tell him where did you bought them... That's life, my friends. We have to help each others, even if most people are selfish, egocentric and greedy. One day you'll need their help too. So think about that.

Encourage. Ooooh, but you just saw a beautiful bush that is about to fully grow up. You are stunned, amazed, do you feel the excitement in your soul. Just walk over there and touch the roses, don't you love that smell?
Talk to that flower, even if it may sound crazy. Tell her she's the most beautiful flower you have ever seen, and you'll see what happens. Now think that, correlated to real life, that flower may be your little brother or sister, or just a ordinary human being you'll come across when you'll leave this room. And you look into his sad eyes, you hear his sigh, and you must ask yourself then 'what should I do?' Take his hand and tell him he's the most wonderful person you've ever met. And remember, a smile a day keeps the sadness away.

Now open your eyes. Don't say anything. Just... when I'll finish speaking, try to understand what I wanted to say. You must do some choices, you must ask some questions, recommend something to someone, encourage someone, and all these things mean to CARE. But be fair, my friends don't cheat for your own interest or just to harm someone.  Either you're happy or sad, hurt or with healed wounds, optimistic or pessimistic, just close your eyes and say: "I care, I will care, but I also must be fair"

Thank you.